Hi there friends, recently I have been reading “Girl Stop Apologizing” by Rachel Hollis which came out last month and guys honestly I have had the book less than a week and I am loving it!! If you haven't gotten yourself a copy, do yourself a favor and order a copy now! You can do that here. Ok friends, this post isn’t to sell you on this book. I have just been doing some thinking because of it and wanted to share my thoughts with you.
The premise of the book is for women to live their best lives. Rachel talks about all the excuses women use to not follow their dreams and I never thought I was like any of them until I read this book. I realised that I have been living the majority my life not the way I had wanted to but based out of fear of what other people might think. (of me) That's right friends, I made decisions in MY life because I was afraid about what other people would think of me. Now you may think well that’s ridiculous, but hey it happens and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
Looking back, this is such a hard pill to swallow. I mean I’m following my dreams now running my own business with two of the most amazing and supportive business partners a girl could ask for, but before that, many of the decisions I made were based out of fear. Not many people know this, actually scratch that, no one besides Gabe knows this, and I’m not sure he even remembers I mentioned this to him in passing one day….growing up I wanted to be a music producer. I have always had a love of music and thought I would love working in the industry, until I was told I was too nice...which made me think I was too nice to make it in a cut throat industry...the comment had nothing to do with the music industry, but everything to with how people perceived me. How crazy is that? Someone’s not to be taken seriously comment changed a dream I had for myself, but the thing is, it wasn’t a fault of this person, they weren't saying to to be negative, or to talk me out of something. I never even told them about in the first place, it was just a comment. A comment that I decided was a truth about me and right then and there I stopped looking to be a music producer and looked for something a little more stable, a little more me.
Ok I mean being too nice, not like that's a bad thing right? No, of course not...so I ultimately settled on teaching for a while which again people had their comments about, you're too shy to teach, you barely speak now and you're going to talk 6 hours a day to children? Well guess what, I can, and I did. On and on the comments went, and just to prove them wrong I did it. I taught for a little while. And while I loved my time in the classroom and the students lives I was able to touch, I still wasn’t living my life for myself. I taught to have a stable job, to have a stable income, to go along the path that I thought I had to take, but if I am being honest with myself, I still wasn’t living my best life.
Looking back, I am kind of furious, like who gives you the right to judge MY decisions about how I am living my life? I am not hurting anyone, I was doing something I thoroughly enjoyed. But I let my decisions be influenced by the people around me. I am so thankful I finally have something that is mine and that I love more than anything. Anyway, this book made me feel like I wasn’t the only one who was going through this problem, I wasn't odd or a failure. I was just something that I was taught to do. Anyway, if you are looking for a great read this spring and summer I highly suggest you pick up a copy! I promise you won’t regret it!
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